Debina Bonnerjee and hubby actor Gurmeet Choudhary, welcomed their first baby, Lianna in April this year. The actress is on the top of the world, relishing her new role as a mother.
However, the journey to motherhood has not been an easy one for Debina. The actress talked about it during a recent interview with BT and shared, “We got married in 2011 but back then, having a baby meant giving away my career. I also had apprehensions ki break liya toh career stake par aa jaayega. The plan was to find stability first before taking another step.”
Amidst all this, the desire to become a mother arose five years ago. Debina, recalls, “I was part of a show and couldn’t quit it midway. So that resulted in a further delay of about two years. Soon after that, I decided to pursue motherhood aggressively. But jab aap nahi chaahte ho tab bohot kuchh hota hai, aur jab chaahte ho tab nahi hota hai.”
She added, “When the lockdown happened, I was undergoing treatments and shuttling between doctors, which was time-consuming and monetarily draining.” Debina was diagnosed with endometriosis and adenomyosis during that time.
Talking about it, she said, “It’s an irreversible and incurable condition. I changed my lifestyle completely. I took steps to reduce the accumulation of toxins in my body and also stopped eating outside completely.”
She continued, “The fight to become a mother lasted five years. I failed five times during the process, which included three IUIs and two IVFs. I also tried alternative therapies, like acupuncture and flower therapy. I would cry all the time because I held myself responsible for the failure. The feeling of reaching a dead-end is devastating.”
Talking about the role of her husband Gurmeet during the journey she elaborates, “My work, workouts, and having the right life partner kept me sane. It’s not a solo journey. The responsibility of having a child shouldn’t rest on just a woman’s shoulders; it’s on the couple. It’s a joint journey. Every time, I faced failure, I would talk it out with my husband. Gurmeet was always positive and made me believe that it was our journey.”
She shared, “I receive a lot of emails from women telling me that their husbands aren’t supportive, but they want to go through this journey to salvage their marriage. I want to tell them that if your husband isn’t with you now, a kid will not bring him back. Bring a child into this world only if your relationship is strong. The child is the harvest of love. Everything is worth it with a solid partner.”
When asked about the recent trolling she received for holding her baby in one arm, Debina replied, “I know what all I have gone through to become a mother. Why will I hold my baby in a way that she could fall? I would get upset initially over such comments, but then I realized that Lianna, my husband, and my family need my attention, not frivolous things like these. Having said that, I am mindful about what I post now.”
Debina also talked about her future plans and shared, “I am getting offers, but I am waiting for a good project to make a comeback with. I have been shooting regularly for my brands, including the day I was discharged from the hospital. At some point, life has to be led normally.”
