siya ke ram

The one who can understand Sita can appreciate any woman of any culture or era, for Sita is central to the feminine mind. Rama is always in awe of her. Whenever faced with a sticky situation, Rama waits calmly but Sita is gutsy; she stands up and speaks her mind and if her decision proves to be wrong, she either apologises or pays for it.

Much fuss is made over the lifting of the Shiva bow by Rama in front of thousands of potential grooms at Sita’s swayamvara but no one talks of how effortlessly Sita lifted the bow as a child. Parashurama had advised King Janaka to get Sita married only to the person who could lift the bow. Rama finally does the deed she never once reminds him how it was child’s play for her.

Rama is praised for his calmness when he is banished to the forest by stepmother Kaikeyi for fourteen years but Sita is a step ahead; she imposes exile on herself, rejecting palace comforts so that she can go with Rama.
She takes it upon herself to provide Rama with a motive to kill all demons and begins to chart out a plan. She acts the defenceless woman in front of demoness Surpanakha who is enamoured by Rams looks. Then Sita asks for the golden deer that even a child would know is artificial, and Rama goes after the deer, to fulfill his wife’s wishes, leaving brother Lakshmana to guard her.

Hearing Rama’s call for help, Sita sends Lakshmana to check despite his protests – she even accuses him of dereliction of duty to his brother and when that does not work, implies that he was trying to stay with her because of her beauty, thereby forcing him to leave — and then confidently waits for Ravana to abduct her, so that Rama gets a sound motive. When Hanuman comes to Ashokavana to rescue her, Sita refuses to let him carry her on his back to safety for she wanted Rama to emerge hero and saviour.

Sita is not the victim, rather she calls the shots. She loves Rama yet checks him when necessary; she can confidently scold her abductor Ravana by holding just a straw; she walks into the fire with her head held high, never justifying to anyone why she wanted the golden deer. Never once demands any support for bringing up her children as a single mother.

In each situation she raises her voice for the right reasons even as Rama is busy balancing roles. Sita chooses a dramatic exit by asking the mother earth to take her away, leaving Rama to exit via the holy Saryu River. A perfect script for the hero, yet it is the heroine who walks away with applause, cheers and tears.

Credit to: sanjana


  1. Anjali

    I don’t need to tell anything other than AWESOME ANALYSIS…
    Loved it… And each word was true…

    • Sanjana

      Thanks Di
      Thanks for accepting my opinion
      This is the first i a posting something in Tellyupdates and u are the first one to comment

  2. So true sanjana..u really brought the character of sita beautifully justifying each and every statement of urs .lovevu sis..

    • Sanjana

      Thanks richa Di
      Ur appreciation will help me write more
      Yes Di I took a long time to think how each and every action of hers was true

      • U are right sister sanjana! Sita also always have a grass blade in her hand when ravana meets her in asoka vatika! Many say various concepts for dis.but according to sita,she said to ravana that i can kill u within s minute with dis grass blade ! But i don’t want my husband’s fame to be spoiled!

  3. Vrinda

    Very nice..we never say “jai Ram Sita” we always say “Jai Sita Ram” because, Sita is given the right to be in the beginning by Ram. If Lord Ram has given Sita this right which, She as mentioned by you, fully has a right over even without Sri Ramas verdict, we should never brush off her importance. Sanjana, you have written this very nicely, please write more.

    • Sanjana

      Jai Sita ram
      Sita is the independent goddess who has made ram the dependable God
      Completely agree Di
      Thanx Di and Will surely write more

  4. Brindha

    Sanju it is superb…. Each and every word was true…… ☺Awesome my dear sis…… Continue to write like this……..

  5. twinkle

    sanjana di its awesome , i loved the way you described mata sita’s greatness 🙂 keep writing

  6. Ranaji(die hard fan of ishveer)

    Sita is superb in the show I like her acting also sooo much????and nice analysis sanjana


    ummaaaaaaaa…………. ya chellam………. sammaya iruku………….. superb………. at last tellyupdates posted ur article……. thank u tellyupdates……………

  8. vaishali

    awesome it is i love sita the way she is it increased after reading this… thank u so so so so much…

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